Do you or someone you know struggle to feel content with your life? Does anger, sadness, fear, shame, or guilt seem to guide your choices? Are your relationships wrought with arguments and harsh words? Do you fight and then feel overwhelmed with fear that the relationship has been damaged and you’ll be left alone? When you reflect on your life, do you see destructive patterns, and series of bad choices, that just seem to keep you feeling out of control of your emotions and far from the life-path that you want?
For some people, times like these can be relatively short lived. You get your feet under you and seem to “recover.” For others, these issues seem more chronic, more of an enduring pattern of behaviors and relationships. Sometimes these patterns last a long time despite efforts to change. Some try traditional talk therapy and others quit using drugs or alcohol. Still others change jobs, move to a new city, or divorce. Others find more dangerous and self-harming ways to “control” their emotions and their relationships.
While some of these efforts may help in the short term, the changes are not enduring. The anger and fear and chaos creep back into their lives…but, they don’t have to.
Many people I’ve met who struggle to feel comfortable in their own skins and content in their relationships have found Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to be a very helpful resource. Others have found it to be a life-altering change. People find they see themselves and those around them in a new light. People learn skills help to enhance relationships and increase their sense of success in relationships. They learn techniques for tolerating uncomfortable emotions by managing their experience of the emotions. Finally, they take a brief break from uncomfortable emotions by distracting.
These three main skills sets are all wrapped up in learning to apply acceptance and mindfulness, concepts borrowed from Eastern philosophical approaches. DBT emphasizes self-acceptance and acceptance of the present.
I have been providing DBT both in group therapy and individual therapy for many years. Call today to discuss your situation and how DBT may be appropriate to help you meet your personal wellness goals. Whether you are new to DBT or you have previous experience and would like to refresh your skills therapy can help. If you think you or someone you know may benefit from DBT, please contact me for an initial consultation or a free introductory group presentation reviewing DBT and the potential benefits. For more information, please contact Dr. Kilgore at 402.325.0117 extension 2.