You walk through the door after a long day at work, and immediately you are reminded of the work ahead of you for the evening. Another struggle to do homework, arguing at dinner, and the bedtime routine are on the menu for the evening. It seems you have exhausted all resources to change your child’s negative behaviors. This occurs nearly every evening and you ask yourself, “Am I going to have to do this for another ten years?” At times you may tell yourself, “I cannot do this another night.”
Many parents are struggling to manage their child’s pattern of negative behaviors. I have worked with many parents over the years and through all the complaints and struggles with their child’s behavior, I have found most parents just want to regain the control of being a parent. I tell parents not to blame themselves, for they usually do not even realize where they lost their control at home. Parents beat themselves up and lose confidence in their parenting roles, and it feels like a never ending battle. I have had parents tell me they don’t know what to do and they feel helpless. If you are feeling similar, just know you are not alone.
The above scenario does not have to be your experience day in and day out; things can change. I have worked with children and families for many years, and have seen negative behaviors dissipate. I do not believe there is a problem to big for us to work through together.
Counseling can help you develop new coping skills and relaxation techniques for your child. You can begin to feel energized when change occurs, and breathe a sigh of relief that the next ten years are not going to be exhausting. My approach is to listen to parents and get a clear idea of the problem(s) they experience with their child’s behavior. You know your family best, and I like the parents to be part of the treatment planning process.
If you are a parent seeking help for a child, please call for a free phone consultation. I believe, together, we can affect change for your child and family.
Tami Lang, MA LIMHP
1001 South 70th St
Lincoln, NE 68510
(402) 325-0117 x8