J. Kipp Lanning, LIMHP | Marriage & Sex Counselor | Lincoln, NE

J. Kipp Lanning is a counselor in Lincoln, NE with a clinical focus on renewing passion and vitality for married couples. He is the Executive Director of the Nebraska Counseling Association since 2014 and the Chair of the Marriage and Family Therapy division. He has presented for the Nebraska Counseling Association annual conference on topics such as “Addressing Pornography in Relationships”, “Biopsychosocial Causes and Treatments for Erectile Dysfunction” and “Treating Sexual Dysfunction in Long Term Relationships.” He has presented on Sexual Health in Long Term Relationships for local workshops, and as a guest speaker for UNL Social Work classes and Humbolt University Human Sexuality courses. He has been in practice since 2008 in Lincoln, NE.

My goal isn’t to “settle” arguments or broker “peace treaties” but to work on the underlying relationship skills to help the relationships heal themselves. My approach is not to blame or judge, but to discuss thinking errors about relationships, sexuality and getting needs met within the relationship. I help couples develop action oriented plans to change ongoing problem communication. I offer an affirming, safe and positive environment where fears, joys and hurts about the relationship, sexuality and needs can be discussed without judgement. I help couples with difficult conversations about trust/betrayal, sex and intimacy, needs and dreams. Couples that come to see me find that my approach of direct planning, skill building and problem solving is an approach that they appreciate and often see quick progress.

I also have a specialty in sex therapy. There was a saying in marriage counseling schools, “Fix the marriage, fix the sex.” In sex therapy work the thought was often, “Fix the sex, fix the marriage.” I believe that I bring a wholistic approach that addresses both marital issues and sexual issues. Sex therapy issues that I often hear about include: Libido mismatch, Premature ejaculation, Erectile dysfunction, Affairs, Compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual shame/trauma issues. I believe that good sex is sex that focuses on pleasure and both partners are able to say that they felt proud and satisfied.

I offer evening appointments and telehealth (video over secure internet) options for couples for flexiblity. I also offer competitive payment at time of service rates for those whose insurance doesn’t cover couples counseling and/or who want a greater level of confidentiality. Book your appointment with Kipp online now.