I hear people say, “I just want to get over it, and never think about it again”, referring to a traumatic event(s). Unfortunately, trauma processing does not work that way . A traumatic event(s) like being physically abused, neglected, sexually abused, experiencing domestic violence, several placements outside the home as a child, natural disasters, war, etc…do not fully leave the mind and person.
An analogy I like to use is as follows: A person breaks their arm and has to have surgery. In the moment of crisis, the focus is on stabilizing and doing the next thing right away. After the surgery, the pain of the broken arm and surgery become prevalent. Over time the bone heals, and the pain lessens. The scar and the random pain of the broken bone remains. The scar and repaired broken bone will always be a part of the person, it doesn’t go away; similarly trauma too, will remain a part of the person. Although trauma may be a part of you, the good news is it does not have to be excruciating or feel like there is no end to re-experiencing trauma day in and day out.
Trauma processing and trauma work is a life long journey. Learning your own triggers; smells, sights, sounds, taste, touch, people, etc… is important to developing healthy strategies to manage the reoccurring trauma event. Learning how the brain functions during a single traumatic event or repeated traumatic events is helpful and can offer you hope about feeling better. Reaching out to a safe person or finding your own safe place gives you control over the trauma. Finally, the empowerment you attain by changing your mind to become a survivor rather than a victim is unsurpassed.
If you’ve been though a trauma either recently or in the past, please call today.
Tami Lang, LIMHP
1001 South 70th St
Lincoln, NE 68510