For some of my clients, they have never really learned how to express their emotions. Many of us grew up in families that either had difficulty showing emotions, or the opposite was true, and they showed a lot of emotions. Sometimes the majority of emotions that were expressed involved anger! Either way, it can prevent us from learning how to express emotions in a way that is helpful! We have all had experiences where we have yelled at our spouse, or best friend, or even our kids! Wouldn’t it be nice to learn ways to express ourselves without making people angry, or saying something that we immediately regret saying? I’m ashamed to admit that I have been guilty of that! There is a better way to communicate with others, to get our needs met, and a better way to handle our emotions than taking that stress out on the people closest to us!
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, more commonly known as DBT, is a program that helps people to balance their lives better. DBT is broken down into three main areas of focus: managing emotions, learning how to manage stress better, and improving relationships with others. Learn More about how DBT can help!
It’s not easy to feel out of control sometimes and it is understandable that you don’t want to be feeling that way. Oftentimes, past traumatic experiences can shape how we react to the world around us and lead us to strong emotional responses. Many people can agree that controlling their emotions is a difficult thing to do when a trauma has led them to feel triggered or unsafe in their environment. DBT can help you get that power back and feel in charge of your emotions.
DBT can be utilized in individual therapy or skills can also be taught in the group setting. The modality teaches clients many skills that they can begin using right away to help process their emotions and react appropriately. DBT has four major learning objectives. The first objective, Mindfulness, helps you to live in the present moment. Reflection, meditation, and learning the states of your mind are focused on in this section. Next, DBT focuses on Interpersonal Effectiveness. This module focuses on relationships. Interpersonal effectiveness assists you in building healthy relationships, letting go of toxic ones, and finding ways to be effective in conflicts and discussions with others. After Interpersonal Effectiveness, we focus on Emotion Regulation. Learning to gain control of your emotions and manage them appropriately is key during this stage. Finally, DBT focuses on Distress Tolerance. Distress Tolerance places the focus on learning to manage crisis situations with a level head and allowing yourself to be set free from out of control emotions. Make an appointment today!
Do you or someone you know struggle to feel content with your life? Does anger, sadness, fear, shame, or guilt seem to guide your choices? Are your relationships wrought with arguments and harsh words? Do you fight and then feel overwhelmed with fear that the relationship has been damaged and you’ll be left alone? When you reflect on your life, do you see destructive patterns, and series of bad choices, that just seem to keep you feeling out of control of your emotions and far from the life-path that you want?
Many people I’ve met who struggle to feel comfortable in their own skins and content in their relationships have found Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to be a very helpful resource. Others have found it to be a life-altering change. People learn skills help to enhance relationships. They learn techniques for tolerating uncomfortable emotions by managing their experience of the emotions. Finally, they take a brief break from uncomfortable emotions by distracting.
These three main skills sets are all wrapped up in learning to apply acceptance and mindfulness, concepts borrowed from Eastern philosophical approaches. DBT emphasizes self-acceptance and acceptance of the present.
I have been providing DBT both in group therapy and individual therapy for many years. Call today to discuss your situation and how DBT may be appropriate to help you meet your personal wellness goals. Whether you are new to DBT or you have previous experience and would like to refresh your skills therapy can help. If you think you or someone you know may benefit from DBT, please contact me for an initial consultation or a free introductory group presentation reviewing DBT and the potential benefits.